Those who keep shoving young people out of society deserve the same shaming Joseph Welch hurled at demagogic Senator Joe McCarthy: “Have you no sense of decency?"
Thanks, Mike, for the data that shows today's youth to be more pacific now than in the past.
For me the crucial point is how do we get the Status Quo off the Blame Game of youth and onto the cause of all human violence which I consider is authoritarian parenting, child abuse and neglect.
If we agree with Lloyd deMause that today's more peaceful youth came that way through more peaceful parenting that valued autonomy, then our task must be to encourage and enable more of it.
Which is why I teach Parent Effectiveness Training by Thomas Gordon.
For me it is encouraging that books like
Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent by Iris Chen, 2020
are arriving and challenging China’s Control Parenting style.
Let us both continue to help increase this trend toward autonomy and self-control in individuals of all ages.
I give you Tom’s plea to abandon the “Obedience to Authority” tactic for parenting:
“As a society we must urgently adopt the goal of finding and teaching effective alternatives to authority and power in dealing with other persons—children or adults—alternatives that will produce human beings with sufficient courage, autonomy, and self-discipline to resist being controlled by authority when obedience to that authority would contradict their own sense of what is right and what is wrong. Parents can raise children who are responsible, self-disciplined, and cooperative without relying on the weapon of fear; they can learn how to influence children to behave out of genuine consideration for the needs of parents rather than out of fear of punishment or withdrawal of privileges.” Thomas Gordon
Thanks, Mike, for the data that shows today's youth to be more pacific now than in the past.
For me the crucial point is how do we get the Status Quo off the Blame Game of youth and onto the cause of all human violence which I consider is authoritarian parenting, child abuse and neglect.
If we agree with Lloyd deMause that today's more peaceful youth came that way through more peaceful parenting that valued autonomy, then our task must be to encourage and enable more of it.
Which is why I teach Parent Effectiveness Training by Thomas Gordon.
For me it is encouraging that books like
Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent by Iris Chen, 2020
https://www.amazon.com/Untigering-Peaceful-Parenting-Deconstructing-Parent-ebook/dp/B08QG3C9F3
are arriving and challenging China’s Control Parenting style.
Let us both continue to help increase this trend toward autonomy and self-control in individuals of all ages.
I give you Tom’s plea to abandon the “Obedience to Authority” tactic for parenting:
“As a society we must urgently adopt the goal of finding and teaching effective alternatives to authority and power in dealing with other persons—children or adults—alternatives that will produce human beings with sufficient courage, autonomy, and self-discipline to resist being controlled by authority when obedience to that authority would contradict their own sense of what is right and what is wrong. Parents can raise children who are responsible, self-disciplined, and cooperative without relying on the weapon of fear; they can learn how to influence children to behave out of genuine consideration for the needs of parents rather than out of fear of punishment or withdrawal of privileges.” Thomas Gordon
Dr. Thomas Gordon on Parent Effectiveness Training - a shift away from Power and Control https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KhCDEUWFvyc